Thursday, September 27, 2012

Our First Week

Holy cow this has been a long, stressful, scary, and AMAZING week! Lili and Daddy are napping, so I figured I would update everyone on what exactly was going on. Here we go.....this is going to be LONG!

Lili was born on Thursday, September 20. She was 7lb 7oz, 19 in., and absolutely perfect! We had a pretty rough labor. I was pushing for 4 hours. She was right there. We found out later that her cord was wrapped around her neck twice. The midwife was able to unwrap her before she came out thank goodness! When she came out, she had A LOT of bruising (especially on the crown of her head).

After we got moved to our postpartum room, everything seemed pretty great. She was pretty lethargic, but that's to be expected in babies under 24 hours old. She did a bunch of sleeping. She also got a bunch of snuggles from her mommy and daddy :)

We came home on Saturday afternoon. Her jaundice levels were on the border of being treated. So, we got to go home. Her weight had dropped to 6lb 12oz which is normal, but her loss was on the higher end of average. The pediatrician wanted to us to take her back to the hospital on Sunday to get her jaundice levels checked again. So that's what we did. Lili was really lethargic all day on Sunday. We got a call from the pediatrician in the afternoon saying that her levels had jumped from 13 to 17 and she needed to be treated. The home light was not available so we had to take her to get her admitted to the hospital. I was devastated because I didn't realize we could stay with her. When they admitted her, she was down to 6lb 10oz. They put her under the lights from about 5 on Saturday afternoon through 11 on Sunday morning. The pediatrician came in and said that her jaundice was clearing (she was back down to 13) but he was really concerned about her weight. Lili hadn't eaten for 6 hours and all we could get her to do was suck on our finger. She seemed to be comatose. It was really scary. The pedi immediately wanted to put her on a bottle and start feeding her. We REALLY wanted Lili to at least have breast milk because we feel that's what's best for her in the long run. He was really resistant until the most AMAZING nurse stepped up and advocated for our rights. She told him that I would pump and then we would supplement whatever I didn't get with formula. He agreed and we started the feeding marathon of 2 oz every 3 hours no matter what. We weren't allowed to get her riled up to latch on to me because the pedi didn't want her wasting what little energy she had. So we were allowed to try quickly. If she didn't latch, she was to get finger fed with a tube. If she did latch, she still got the tube with the supplement of breast milk and formula. My milk hadn't come in yet because she wasn't demanding it from me. So our feeding sessions took us an hour. We had to feed her (Mark and I wanted her to have my taste and smell still so I did the finger feeding while he inserted the tube and held the bottle). After we fed her, I had to pump. It was very scary and LOTS of hard work.

When the pedi came to us on Tuesday, he was happy because she had gotten up to 6lb 14oz. That was a 4oz jump in less than 24 hours. Lili was more active, but there was still room for improvement. They discharged us Tuesday at 2. We came home and continued the 2oz every 3 hours. We really wanted to get Lili to latch back on to me like she had in the hospital right after birth. She had started showing some interest, but we didn't want to make her work too hard for food yet. So she got finger fed most of the time. The good news, though, was that my milk had FINALLY started coming in! She was getting mostly breast milk and very little formula at each feeding.

We had to schedule our first pedi appointment for Wednesday. Mark called at 9:15 and the only time our pedi had available was 10:30....we had to leave at 10.....we hadn't gotten ready yet. Lili then decided that it was the PERFECT time to latch and feed on me for the first time in days. It was INCREDIBLY exciting, but horribly timed :) We ended up making it on time and should get some kind of prize for getting completely ready and feeding an uncooperative baby in 45 min.!

Lili has now started to initiate most of her feedings. When she feeds on her own time and terms, she latches and eats VERY well! If we have to wake her to hit her 3 our mark, she isn't always as cooperative. But we still need to make sure she's getting a little more than she needs right now. She's having some latch issues which is NOT fun for Mommy, but we are going to see a lactation consultant tomorrow to try and rectify it.

Our little Lili has been through SO much in this week! She is definitely a strong little girl to already have made the progress she's made. She is SO much more active now! Mark and I can finally play with her without feeling like she's wasting energy. She will be awake and alert for long periods of time. She's finally like a normal newborn. Now we are just learning how to take care of her all over again.

Thank you to everyone who has lifted us up in prayers. They were definitely needed and appreciated.

Saturday, September 15, 2012

40 weeks....and we're still waiting :)

September 16 and we're still pregnant. Baby Girl is officially due today and she is not making her appearance, yet. Mark and I are enjoying our last few days as just the two of us. We went putt-putting today. We haven't done that for a LONG time (I kicked his butt even without my handicap that I invoked).

Mark's MUCH more anxious than I am, but I'm getting pretty excited. So, now we wait (hopefully not too long, though). I'm thinking it will probably be sometime this week. We shall see :)

Hopefully next time I post, I'll be telling you all about our birth story and precious daughter :)

Friday, August 31, 2012

Let's not do that again!

We had a bit of a scare yesterday at our midwife appointment. Before I start, everything turned out okay!

I had my final ultrasound with the midwife scheduled for yesterday afternoon. Long story short, Baby Girl's heart beat was in the 190s. They hooked us up to the monitors and her heart rate was constant in the 190s. I honestly don't know for how long. It dragged on an on, but I'd guess around 10-15 minutes. It started going down, but it was still high.

I met with the doctor and she went through the monitor and she told us that she wanted us to go to the hospital for a longer monitoring. She listened to Baby Girl's heart beat with the Doppler and it was in the 150s and never went near 190.

We got to the hospital and they hooked us up again. Everything was fine. Her heart rate stayed normal for the 2 hours we were being monitored. I was also having contractions during the monitoring. They were pretty sporadic, but they were happening frequently.

We are so happy that everything turned out okay. But please keep Baby Girl in your prayers. We don't want this to happen again!

Thursday, August 16, 2012

35 weeks 4 days

I cannot believe that we are close to a month before we are holding baby girl in our arms! Our house is looking a little more prepared for baby, but there's still stuff to do. We've finished our Lamaze class, so we know how to get her out. We've finished our breastfeeding class, so we know how to feed her. All that's left is a deep clean of the house and waiting for things to arrive in the mail :) We are also going grocery shopping this weekend so that I can make some meals ahead of time and put them in the freezer for after she gets here. I have a few more things to pack in our hospital bags, but then we're ready to go!

At our last appointment, baby girl weighed 5lbs 13oz She went from being in the 41% to 62%. If she gains the 2-2.5lbs that she should gain, she'll be a little over 8 lbs at birth. We got a couple more 3D photos of her on Tuesday. She looks the same as the first but she's DEFINITELY put on some pudginess :) Her cheeks are to die for! So much fluff I love it!

I don't feel like I look like I should be 35 weeks, but at least I finally look pregnant! I can reach my feet, but it's not the most comfortable thing in the world breathing wise. So, Mark gets to paint my toes. He does a FABULOUS job ;) Sleeping is harder, but it's not too bad. I get whiny sometimes. But I'm always grateful to  be carrying this little one.

I've been CRAZY tired! Like I can easily knock out a 3 hour nap each morning. Mark says that he can't wait for the nesting to kick in ;) I can't either because I've got stuff to do! All of her clothes are washed and put away. Her room is arranged. Everything for her is ready to go. Now we're just waiting on her.

I created a pool on facebook to guess when she might make her arrival :) Good luck.........the only prize is bragging rights. It's the "Simple Baby Pool" app.

Wednesday, August 1, 2012

To my darling daughter

A different child,

People notice
There's a special glow around you.
You grow
...Surrounded by love,
Never doubting you are wanted;
Only look at the pride and joy
in your mother and father's eyes.
And if sometimes
Between the smiles
There's a trace of tears,
One day
You'll understand.
You'll understand
There was once another child
A different child
Who was in their hopes and dreams.
That child will never outgrow the baby clothes
That child will never keep them up at night
In fact, that child will never be any trouble at all.
Except sometimes, in a silent moment,
When mother and father miss so much
That different child.
May hope and love wrap you warmly
And may you learn the lesson forever
How infinitely precious
How infinitely fragile
Is this life on earth
One day, as a young man or woman
You may see another mother's tears
Another father's silent grief
Then you, and you alone
Will understand
And offer the greatest comfort.
When all hope seems lost,
You will tell them
With great compassion,
"I know how you feel.
I'm only here
Because my mother tried again."

Written by Pandora Diane MacMillan

I saw this on a group I'm in and thought it was just beautiful. Any parent who has lost a baby due to miscarriage, stillbirth, or SIDs has to deal with the dichotomy of loss and life simultaneously. We would not be having our daughter had Baby G not grown wings last September. I feel blessed and sad all at the same time. I feel guilty for being happy.....I feel guilty for feeling sad. I just know that God has given me this baby girl to put a band-aid over the wound left by losing Baby G.

A baby born after a loss is considered a "Rainbow Baby." The only way that this rainbow showed up was because of a storm. The rainbow does not take away the damage from the storm, but it gives hope and comfort following the storm.

I hope one day I convey to our daughter that she is truly my gift from God and I will ALWAYS see her as such.

Tuesday, June 12, 2012

26 Weeks (Almost 3rd Trimester)

So we had an appointment with our Perinatalogist, Dr. Egley, today. It went SUPER great! We had an ultrasound and baby girl is measuring around 1 lb. 12 oz. Her fluid levels look really good. We're pretty sure she has Mark's lips :) We got to see a little yawn (which was adorable).

We also clarified how the rest of the pregnancy will go appointment wise and exactly what will be going on during the rest of the time. I will start to keep track of her movements tomorrow. Starting at 28 weeks (June 26), we will have our weekly appointments. We will have an ultrasound every week. There is a list of 5 things they have to see her do before we are allowed to go. I can't remember what they all are, but I know that one is her practicing her breathing. Every 3rd appointment they will do an anatomy scan to make sure she's growing properly.

We are feeling really good about all of this. Dr. Egley said that once high risk pregnancies make it to the 3rd trimester, they actually have a higher success rate than 'normal' pregnancies. That's INCREDIBLY comforting.

I'm definitely feeling the excitement :)

Thursday, May 31, 2012

24 weeks 4 days

Well......I think it's safe to say that my amazing nights of sleep will continue to dwindle :) I've not slept super well all week. I think it's mostly because we have a lot to get done.

First of all, Mark and I decided to not buy a house this summer. We decided to suffer through a cramped year so we can make a bigger down payment (making responsible decisions sucks). It will be better in the long run. SOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO, that means we get to figure out how to add a baby to our already bulging 1000 square feet. We've started the daunting process. We're moving our bedroom into what is now the den. It will be cramped, but I don't really want baby girl in a room with a sliding door. We are attacking one room at a time and pinterest has been amazing in aiding my brain with ideas for reorganization of every room (even the attic).

We are also CRAZY busy this summer! So many of our friends and family are experiencing life events right now and we want to be there for all of it. We will be in Auburn 3 of the 5 weekends of June: high school graduation, wedding, and BFF baby shower. (Quick reminder: Auburn is about a 6 hour drive from our house) Our shower is going to be in July in Auburn and we'd like to go on one last mini vacation to Chicago. All of our "get ready for baby" classes start in July and go into August. Then we have another baby shower and wedding in August. Now add in my weekly appointments that start on June 12 (on top of my monthly appointments). CRAZY SUMMER!!!!!!!!!!! But once all this is done, we will be learning how to be parents to literally the cutest baby girl in the history of the universe ;)

We got some great news with Mark's work, too. We were thinking that he would have to be pretty stingy with the rest of his 9 vacation days. BUT.......they're going to give him a week (with pay)! Anything after that he has to use vacation days. He was only going to have about 6 days by the time baby girl got here. So, this is very much a blessing.

Did I mention that we're also becoming an aunt and uncle about a week after baby girl gets here?

I'm hungry, so Imma go eat :) We are celebrating Mark's birthday today since we'll be driving to Auburn tomorrow. I've got some baking to do!

Sunday, April 29, 2012

20 weeks = halfway there :)

Today is the 20 week mark! I can't believe it! It still feels surreal that we are going to have a baby in September. We've been working on a registry, but I'm still paranoid about buying anything for baby girl. We've got the car seat for the Mustang so we can at least bring her home!

We do have a name picked out for baby girl (and it's awesome)! However, we're keeping it a secret until she arrives. We want to be able to save something for a surprise :)

I can feel her movements more often, now. It's a daily occurrence which is great. I can't wait for Mark to feel her moving around.

This is getting exciting :)

Wednesday, April 18, 2012

It's a GIRL!!!!!!!

As most of you know, Mark and I had our anatomy scan yesterday. We found out LG is a girl! We are so incredibly happy and it is fun/weird calling her by her name (which we are keeping a secret until she makes her appearance).

Everything on the anatomy scan looked good so far. Dr. Egley, the specialist, said that doesn't guarantee everything is perfect. But, everything they were able to see at the scan looked great! It was very much a relief. We were also told that starting at 27 weeks we would start going to his office every week. At every appointment, they will do various tests to make sure baby girl is developing the way she should. We will also have a scan every 3 weeks so they can measure and make sure she is doing well. It's really comforting to have this kind of service. This will help detect any kind of stress baby girl may be under because of my clotting disorder. Then if there are issues, we will know right away and can take any actions that we need to. Good thing I really like this doctor!

Baby girl was being somewhat uncooperative yesterday. Her feet were up by her head the entire time! Mind you the scan was a good 20-25 minutes. She must've been comfy! I had to roll around trying to get her to change her position. She never did :) It was hard for them to get measurements of her head. We really didn't get to see her face because her feet were there. She also kept putting her hands up by her face.

Sunday, April 15, 2012

Food and Weight :)

I've been so very proud of myself this whole pregnancy. I've only gained 1 pound since becoming pregnant. That's right 1 POUND!

BUT.........I am starting to feel hungrier more often. I think my weight is about to increase (which is GREAT if that is what LG needs).

Oh, yeah. We are 18 weeks along today and have our anatomy scan on Tuesday! Can't wait to hopefully find out if we are having a boy or girl :)

Tuesday, April 10, 2012

LG 17 weeks 2 days

We had our monthly appointment today. It went well. They were able to find the heartbeat with the Doppler. LG's heart was going strong at 145 beats per minute.

We go for our anatomy scan a week from today (April 17). We are hoping that LG is cooperative so we can find out if LG is a boy or girl.

I was so incredibly anxious today. I never do well when an appointment is coming up. Hopefully I can begin to relax at our appointments. I don't think so, but I can always try :)

Have a wonderfully blessed day!

Saturday, March 24, 2012

LG Week 15

So we will officially be 15 weeks on Sunday, March 25! I've definitely started to feel more pregnant! My belly is also starting to pop. I've not told my students yet, but one of them is noticing my thickening waist line :) He gave me a hug and said, "I'm gonna pop your belly, Mrs. Garety!" It was ADORABLE! I can't wait to tell my kiddos. I'm thinking I will try to wait until we know what we are having (which will happen as early as April 17 pending LG's cooperative skills).

Mark is really great (and funny). He asks me about 5 times after dinner if I've taken my vitamin and baby aspirin. He also feels the need to ask me if I have to pee in the morning before he goes into the bathroom or if I'm cold when he comes to bed. I goof on him, but I do appreciate the love and attention he's showing me and LG.

At week 15, LG is about 4.5 inches long now. I can't wait to feel LG moving around all the time :)

Sunday, March 18, 2012

Introducing LG

I figured I would update you all on how everything is going with our baby, LG (stands for Little Garety).

We found out about our LG on January 5. We were SUPER excited! Our 8 week mark was Superbowl Sunday. We were at a party and I started having lower back pain. It felt very similar to how my back felt when I lost Baby G. We were both REALLY nervous and decided to go to the hospital to make sure everything was okay. They didn't do an ultrasound (which is another story) but recommended that we call my doctor the next day. I did and they brought us in for an ultrasound the next day. LG was absolutely perfect :)

At 9 weeks we had our first scheduled appointment. We had another ultrasound and again, LG was perfect :)

At 10 weeks we had our first appointment with the high-risk pregnancy doctor. He did another ultrasound and, again, LG was perfect. We got to see him/her do a little baby crunch.

At 13 weeks we had our second scheduled appointment. They planned to use a doppler (handheld device used to listen to baby's heartbeat). They used the doppler but couldn't find the heartbeat. We were freaking out. They took me straight in to get another ultrasound. It was the scariest 3 minutes I've ever had! When LG got on the screen, he/she was just moving around like crazy with a heartbeat of 159 :) He/She was moving hands and legs and even clenching and unclenching their fist. It was incredibly cool and we got a couple of really neat photos.

I've been feeling REALLY well! Even during the first trimester, I was feeling pretty well. I feel truly blessed!

Today we are 14 weeks along :)

Along with the GREAT news of LG, we've also experienced some other blessings from above. Mark got hired directly with Caterpillar and will no longer be a contract employee as of April 2! He is really excited and I am so proud of him. We are looking into buying a house (after we refigure our new budget). We are also looking into the possibility of me staying at home once the baby is born. I've always wanted to have the opportunity to stay home with my children. It's also been Mark's desire to have me be able to stay at home, too. I feel blessed that we even get to consider this option!

2012 is shaping up to be quite a phenomenal year for the Illinois Garetys!

Monday, March 12, 2012

March 12, 2012

Dear Baby G,

This was the day that you could have made your appearance. I still wonder what you would have looked like: hair, nose, cheeks, eyes.

I miss you, love you, and think about you everyday. I really don't think that will ever change. You will always be my first baby.

I hope that Jesus gives you extra hugs and love today. I pray that he gives you one from me and your dad. We love you SO very much! Fly high with the angels today :)

Love you for always and forever,